So often I wonder how two totally different people have made it together for such a long time. 17 years age difference, totally different upbringing, completely different moral standards, different cultural backgrounds...all of the things people say shouldn't matter, but eventually they always do.
Opposites attract, people say. Well yeah, I guess they do, but for how long?
How long is the learning curve? How long do you make allowances for completely different outlooks on life?
What do you do when you're so completely different, you sometimes wonder why you're still together?
Her: Outgoing, young(er), optimistic, goofy, completely against illegal drug use of any kind, goes out of her skin if she has to stay inside an entire day, thinks of sitting around watching TV all day as torture, needs to constantly be doing at least 10 things at any given time, HATES being alone, craves constant stimulation, would just as soon cut her own hand off than steal from another person, and loves spending every spare moment with her children.
Him: Reserved, quiet, old(er), shy, dark cloudish, somewhat liberal moral standards, loves being inside watching the same set of 10 movies over and over, hates being anywhere but home, loves zoning out and sleeping, and enjoys spending time alone.
So now what.
I'll tell you: 11+ years of trying to make things work, compromise, patience, and more compromise until the compromising causes resentment.
Angry words, hurt feelings, complete communication breakdown, and silence.
...and still we tread on. Why? I have two reasons, both with beautiful brown eyes and worry on their faces.
Tomorrow's another day.